Self love messages for the month of October(A card reading)

First self love message: “Self love isn't selfish”

Second self love message: “Its time to feel, so that you can heal”

Third message: “Listen to your intuition”

Channelled messages

Self love and selfishness are not in alignment and are so different from each other. When i started my self love journey, i was scared to dive deep and fully learn to love myself cuz i thought id become selfish. As soon as I was able to let go of that fear and chose self love regardless, I realised there is nothing selfish about self love, that is why i define self love as building a healthy and loving relationship with yourself. I also discovered the so called not trying to be selfish was me people pleasing. People pleasing is not love. Neglecting yourself, your truth, your needs to please others or as a way of showing love is not love. Self sacrifice at the expense of your peace, joy, happiness & fulfilment is not love. True love starts with loving yourself first which means choosing yourself first & knowing what is best for you, is best for others and the world at large. Self love is not selfish, choose you, love you.

Take your time feel your emotions, pain & triggers, any emotion or trigger you've been suppressing or avoiding, to hold space for them to be released, sit with them & process them with understanding, love and compassion for yourself. Remember feeling is healing. To heal is to allow yourself to feel without judgement or criticising yourself but with compassion.

Are you avoiding your feelings? are you scared to feel? Are you running away from feelings, triggers? i want you to know that it is safe to feel. Tell your subconscious that it is safe to feel, create a safe space to feel, you can do that using meditation or sound healing practice or just create a quiet space and time for you to sit with your emotions to journal, process & feel them. Allow yourself to find pleasure in sitting & feeling your emotions and triggers with love for you

Allow your intuition to guide you in your self love journey, listen to gut or intuition. Ask your intuition for guidance in your self love journey, You don’t need to figure out or plan your self love practices, allow your heart or intuition to be your guide and also listen. Ask your heart, soul or intuition, how you can how yourself love today?

Self love song for this month: Bruno mars — Just the way you are

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